How the Combination of Dreams, Motivation and Hard Work led to Success for one Survivor of Terror

Terror took her father and placed many challenges in her path, but her father was part of her motivation and her success will be a blessing to his memory.

Meet N, 33 years and an inspiration. At the age of 21, her father was murdered in a terror attack while at work outside Israel. At the time of his death, N was completing her army service. “I had a great childhood, but due to financial difficulties my father was forced to travel for work. When he was killed I was at loose ends and didn’t know what to do.”

N, a capable student, decided to go to university. As a Survivor of Terror she was entitled to a tuition grant from the National Insurance Institute. Because she was already 21 when her father was killed, she was not entitled to a living stipend. Therefore, while working odd jobs whenever possible, depending on bank loans to get from semester to semester, she studied psychology full-time.

Upon graduation, she took a job at a children’s home as a counselor, where four years later she continues to work part-time. With the help of several second jobs, working nights and summers, she saved enough tuition for her first year of a graduate school program in educational psychology.

N lives with family in Jerusalem; goes to school in Beer-Sheva; and works in Tel Aviv. Much of her studying is done on the bus. She is now in her last year of class work and has started researching her thesis. In September, she will begin a four-year internship. With your generous help ATZUM was privileged to assist N with her tuition this year.

I was deeply moved by N’s story and asked to meet her. I told her she has amazing courage and strength. I asked how she was able to do all this. Her answer was beautiful in its simplicity: “You have dreams, you have goals, and you sacrifice.”

A More then Unusual Close up and Personal Home Visit

Working with many Survivors of Terror, we rely on home visits to help develop a stronger relationship with the families. These visits are helpful, giving us a better understanding of their needs and offering us insight that allows us to help more effectively. Yesterday we made a home visit together. It was one of the most emotionally packed visits we have shared and feel compelled to share it with ATZUM’s friends.

Every day we hear about this problem or that challenge, often with a request for help. Yesterday we were not asked for assistance; rather we were spontaneously drawn into the world of a child who against all expectations survived a terror attack.

O is eight years old and suffers severe neurological damage as a result of a Kassam rocket attack last year. We visit with the family often and have shared many joyous moments as he continues to surprise his physicians who thought he would not live; would not walk; would not talk. But he can and does all that and so much more. This beautiful and precocious child managed to exhaust us one day at the mall and another at the zoo.

Generally full of energy he knows exactly what he wants to do. Happy to see us, yesterday he did not even want to open his gift. During the visit he was upset, his mind racing, shooting off thoughts like sparks as they run down a sparkler’s wire stick.

One moment talking about food and then flashing back to the time of the rocket attack; the next crying and asking his mother, “Why me? Why not you? Why not my friends?” Within minutes he asked the nurse, “Can you give me a shot and fix my arm?” and then asking pointing to his damaged arm, “Who did this to me?” Moments later was talking about his baby sister “who is really beautiful.” This was followed by more questions like “Can I get married?”    All these thoughts were threaded with casual conversation while we tossed a ball.

Reading and learning about the affects of trauma is one thing, seeing it is another. His mother could barely keep pace with him. She would relax as he chose a neutral subject only to be struck again by his next thought.  The frustration was immense, just one year after the attack the impact is crystallizing for him.  Unclear Remembering the attack; what has happened since; his disabilities and what will be his future.

We were welcomed during a very stressful time and overwhelmed by his mother’s strength, patience and love. We feel privileged to be able to offer support by sending volunteers and offering assistance when needed. Just as we have shared those joyous moments as he began to walk and talk we look forward to being there to offer support as he fights towards a complete recovery.

Israel Memorial Day Program with Dallas Yavneh Academy Students

On the eve of the most difficult day on the Israel calendar, Israel memorial day,  ATZUM shared  a meaningful morning with Dallas’ Yavneh  Academy student delegation to the March of the Living. Rabbi Levi Lauer spoke about our commitment as Jews to fulfill the  mitzva of memory in honoring those who sacrificed everything that we might live with sovereign dignity. An extended and thoughtful discussion ensued.

Two Israeli terror victims K, 17 and A 27, joined the session and shared their experiences of the terror attack they survived. They spoke with great candor to the students about their struggle for recovery and the group asked about their commitment to Israel, their frustrations and their hopes for the future.

In addition we were privileged to have high school and one year program  students volunteering with ATZUM, speak to the group about their weekly work  with families effected by terror. Before leaving, each of the Dallas students made beautiful occasion cards to be send to families on the yahrtzeit of a murdered family member or before holidays when loved ones are painfully missed.

We thank the participants from the Dallas Yavneh Academy for making this session a priority of their visit and for caring so deeply.